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Beautiful Boy: Broken

April 1, 2008

I was trained to look for the guilty, now I try to see the broken.

I was told with a snarl that it was about wrongs, evil, selfishness and sin and it is and will be but I discovered there was no need for snarls.

God does snarl, at those who should get that it isn’t about snarling. He does respond to those who need tough love but remember, it is about love. It is about redemption. It is good to be reminded that sin is still wrong but how we respond to sin isn’t.

In the book Beautiful Boy the father comes to a point where he can no longer listen to his sons lies. A point where he will give him no more shelter or money. A point where the family can not take it any more.

The addict has a younger brother who is sad. The father offers to take him to a place where kids like him share their stories of addicted family members. A place where he could share his own.

To often the training I received barks that you are letting them off easy, giving them an excuse to sin. We can not aid the addicted to sin, like this father at some point we must cut them off. The New Testament is full of situations where the church is instructed to avoid or remove individuals. This makes sense. Protect the people, hope that this will push someone towards recovery. No different than the tough love of addiction.

At times our love for the lost can be enabling like the father and yet we must see them as broken. We can not hate them for they are caught in a trap and their brain tells them they are normal and that everything is good and this is how it is supposed to be.

No, we want to see them in spiritual rehab just like the father and yet rehab is their choice, but don’t we have to remember they are broken for that to matter?

There is much to this book to think about.

2 Comments leave one →
  1. Nick Gill permalink
    April 1, 2008 1:49 pm

    Love is always enabling.

    God’s patience is enabling. In order to enable some to recover, God must enable some to destroy themselves. This is how seriously he takes us as his beloved creations.

  2. April 1, 2008 3:08 pm

    Great words Nick.

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